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Have it your way, your way...

2011-09-08T16:14:00.000-07:00

We live in a world that is always telling us "You are in charge, you should do what YOU want, express yourself... and here are some great products to help you do that!" Everyone is selling something, and this is no less true in the world of weddings. "Have it your way" could be the slogan of the bridal event planning industry. Reality shows, blogs, and magazines are all selling visions of what a wedding and the process leading up to it should be. Modern brides are lucky in that such a vast array of choices are available, and that in most cases they will have the final say, or at least a great deal of input into what their wedding celebration will entail. However, the vision of a wedding as the ultimate opportunity for self expression which predominates in most media carries with it a lot of pressures that don't necessary make for a more joyful process or event. My advice to any newly engaged couple, or for those who may have started the wedding planning process and become completely overwhelmed is simple: Stop and think. Don't start by looking at magazines and watching reality shows and looking at venues. These may end good things to do, but the first thing you should think about is not how things will look, but what the day really means to you as a couple. Think about this beyond the obvious, and make yourselves be as specific as possible. Think about what having family and friends share in your day means to both of you. Then, WRITE IT DOWN. It is so easy to get caught up in creating a "look" and a "feel" that you will want to have a centering point in moments of indecision or stress, where you can say to yourself, "It's not about the flowers, or the dress, or the cake (even though of course these things matter!)... it's about___________________." Then when you hear all the conflicting advice or can't decide whether you love peacock feathers or soft blushes as color inspiration more, you can take a step away and have a point of reference that is so much deeper. You will have decided what "having it your way" means on the very deepest level, and then you can let those lesser decisions about what "having it your way" might mean flow from there. Too many people start with the look and then don't stop to take the time to really reflect. They don't stop to think about what "their way" is beyond the surface. What your wedding means will be far more unique to each couple than any outward expression could ever be, so take the time to define and reflect on the most important part of "having it your way" so that you really do.

What is your Favorite "Ridiculous Wedding Moment"?

2011-08-31T10:01:00.000-07:00

I hope people will feel free to post responses when they see this.

I have two, neither of which are ones that I personally witnessed.

1)I saw this in pictures from a friend: The sister of the groom wore a white dress with flowing skirt details to the wedding. It was short, but it could totally pass for an informal wedding gown. It wasn't a super formal wedding, so it really wasn't appropriate at all. She didn't manage to upstage the bride, but it looked like she was sure trying.

2) I read a story somewhere about a bride getting an RSVP from a guest whose children were not included in the invitation-common enough these days. In addition to adding her children, the RSVP included the information that the kids would want the prime rib dinner (and the kids were like 3 and under). Who does that? I was kind of impressed when I read that.

Setting the Scene with Music: Why church organists are awesome

2011-08-17T12:46:00.000-07:00

Maybe some couples love doing it, but choosing music for before, during, and after the wedding can be a stressful task. If you are doing an Ipod mix, it is all you. There is no DJ to blame, nothing. The event sinks or swims based on your musical taste.

That is why I think church organists, other ceremony musicians, and DJ's are the most fabulous thing since sliced bread. They will take your requests, but can also advise you and help you choose music suited to your occasion. And if they are good at their job, they will be sensitive to all the people involved and help your event flow and feel right.

Too often couples choose songs based on what they like, and it isn't always a good fit for the occasion. It is one thing to personalize your wedding, another to fail to consider the big picture, your guests, and the feeling you want to create.

So don't feel like you have fly solo. It's good to have a list of some favorite songs/ pieces, and for the DJ your do NOT play list is always crucial. But a great professional will also have helpful input if you need it. I think sometimes we are think we need to figure out everything on our own after researching on the internet, but there are things an experience professional can tell you that might not read, and ideas they may have that would surprise you.

Fast as fast can be... Part III

2011-08-02T10:10:00.000-07:00

This week's highlight is Da Vinci.

For brides who need a wedding gown ASAP, this is the designer I always point them too, because they tend to have many things in stock. They advertise a "1 week delivery" on many gowns, but in reality you should allow more time than that. If something is in stock, it can still take a month or so to get to you, plus you're most likely going to need some alterations. There isn't a list posted, but MOST DaVinci gowns are potentially available.

Da Vinci also has in stock bridesmaids- limited styles and colors, but they do have options. They do not list them on their website, but we have the options listed on our website, as for all of the other quick delivery bridesmaids- on the main page, underneath the comments section and to the right you will see a box that says "Quick delivery." The first thing that comes up will be wedding gowns, but below that there is a link you can click for "Quick Delivery Bridesmaids." The DaVinci styles and colors available are listed there for you!

The great thing is that if a style is a "Quick Delvivery Style" for wedding gowns or bridesmaids from DaVinci, there is no rush cut!

The image is of Da Vinci 9046, which is available for quick delivery in black.

To Corsage, or not to Corsage?

2011-07-27T09:58:00.000-07:00

Tradition can be great, but in can also be cumbersome. I come from a tradition of weddings where every person who is doing anything as part of the wedding - cutting cake, serving coffee, doing the guestbook, is supposed to be corsaged, as well as mothers, grandmothers, godmothers, you name it.

According to strict etiquette, the only absolute requirement is that mothers be recognized, although most people recognize grandmothers as well. Any other special guests or family members may receive corsages at your pleasure, but it is optional.

Then there is the matter of boutonnieres. Other than the wedding party, these days usually fathers, grandfathers, and ushers will be the other boutonniere wearers.

There really aren't a lot of rules as far as what you do for corsages or boutonnieres as far as composition. Customarily, the groom's boutonniere will have an element similar to the bride's bouquet. Often you see grooms and groomsmen with coordinating pocket squares, which is a clean, more modern look.

As far as corsages go, if the bride has a certain way she would like them to look, then that is of primary importance. Otherwise, it is a nice gesture to find out what people will be wearing and choose flowers in complimentary colors. Usually you can't go wrong with soft whites and ivories, but if you are thinking of color you dont't want to go to all the effort of getting a beautiful big corsage and then have it clash!

Another thing brides may wish to do is enquire of the ladies they'd like to give a corsage if they'd prefer something pinned on their dress or a wrist corsage. If they are wearing a very delicate fabric, they may not wish to put a pin through it and risk leaving a mark. Or, people may prefer the pinned corsage to having something around the wrist- I personally cannot stand bracelets, so a wrist corsage would be a form of slow torture, however well intended.

One idea I've heard that I think is a really nice alternative to giving corsages is to place a small vase with a flower or two, or a small nosegay next to the place setting. This is an elegant and understated way to recognize special people, and they can enjoy the flower without the encumbrance of having to wear it, and also bring it home to enjoy.

Hopefully this gives anyone wrestling with these questions some helpful information and ideas, and just to reiterate, the preferences of the bride and groom are really the first consideration. So don't stress about something that in the scheme of things is really a small detail, and go with what works for you and your wedding!

Fast as fast can be.... Part II

2011-07-20T13:05:00.000-07:00

This week's speedy deliverer is Alexia.

They have an in stock bridesmaids program. Not all of the available styles are shown, but many are pictured on their website.
The downside: they don't list color availability, and it is limited, although for some styles they do have 2-3 options.

Here is the link to what they do have on their website:
http://www.alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaid-Wedding-Flower_Girl-Special-Dresses/InStock/pages/0/

There is a small fee per dress to do the in stock program, but it's less than a rush cut, which is nice.

Alexia also has some dresses that are part of an express delivery program, again the color availability is somewhat limited. The do not picture which dresses are available on their website. The express delivery is nice because there is no additional charge, and the dresses should be delivered in 8-9 weeks or so.
Here are the styles currently part of the express program (this may change so always check with us before ordering): 2500, 2700, 2702, 2706, 698, 840, 842, 844, 846, 848, 850. Also 1402, 2408, 2410, 688, 690, 692, 694, 696. Again, only in certain colors does the rush charge not apply.

So, if you are interested in an Alexia dress and your wedding is close, get in touch with us and we can check to see if it's offered in stock or through the express program, otherwise they do a rush cut as well so there are always possibilities!

Fast as fast can be.... Part I

2011-07-14T11:03:00.000-07:00

I am going to do a series about each of the bridesmaids and bridal lines we carry that has "in-stock" or quick delivery programs. I'm starting with my fave, Eden:

They have an "in-stock" bridesmaids program, and they are my favorite because they show which dresses are in the program, and list the colors available on their website. Usually the dress just comes in one color, and the style numbers end in an "R".

Now, Eden says the dresses are available for "Immediate" delivery, however, they still have to process an order, send it to us, and then we need to send it out to you. So you still want to allow a month or so to receive the dresses.

Here is a link to the page with their in-stock dresses:
http://www.edenbridals.com/In-Stock-Bridesmaids_c_51.html

White or Ivory?

2011-07-06T10:21:00.000-07:00

There are two things you need to consider when deciding on your wedding dress color:
your skin tone and your own personal preference. Don't even think about the whole "White is for purity" thing. Ivory is a shade of white. Most people can't even tell the difference unless they see the two together. So don't even let it be a concern. Think about what you like and what looks best on you.

White tends to look the best on people with darker skin tones. Against very fair skin it can be harsh, or wash someone out. Ivory will be softer and flatter fair skin. There is such a range of ivory shades available, from very light to very creamy, that even within ivory you may find that you prefer a lighter ivory or more toward champagne, etc.

At the end of the day, go with what you love. If you have fair skin and love the look of that dazzling white satin, then do what you can to get a little color and don't think twice. If someone close to you feels strongly that you should be in white, and you love ivory, then ivory it is. You are the one getting married, and you are the one who will be looking at yourself in those photos for decades to come. So, find a color, and fall in love!

Not that anyone needs another "to do" list...

2011-06-21T10:39:00.001-07:00

but, here is a great little list of reminders of things to do after you buy your wedding gown from The Knot.

http://wedding.theknot.com/bridal-fashion/wedding-dress-shopping/articles/10-things-to-do-after-you-purchase-your-wedding-dress.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=KnotNews&cm_ite=June%2021,%202011&MsdVisit=1

So, what is "vintage", really?

2011-06-14T09:49:00.000-07:00

Vintage, like beauty, appears to be in the eye of the beholder. I have heard all kinds of things described as "vintage" that I would not necessarily apply that term to. Then, I did a bing search for the definition and went "Aha! The reason it is used so broadly is that it can have various meanings!" Here are the top two I think apply to the way people use the term when looking at gowns:

1)period: the period of time when something appeared or began, or when somebody was born or flourished
"Depression-vintage furniture"

So when someone uses "vintage" this way, they mean the gown looks like it is from a different time period 20's, 60's, whatever. This is the way I normally think of the term. And for it to be truly vintage, something has to be from that period. There is a difference between looking vintage and being vintage.

2)classic: recognized as being of high quality and lasting appeal
"a series of vintage Laurel and Hardy comedies"

In this sense, vintage becomes a synonym for "timeless." I think this is where the term gets applied all over the place. People love the way a gown looks and think it just classic and gorgeous, they may not have a certin era in mind, it just looks like an ideal wedding gown.

So, "vintage" can mean that the dress looks like it is from a past era, or it can be a synonym for "awesome." Works for me!

Time and Space: Two things you need to consider

2011-05-31T16:02:00.000-07:00

I think it's very interesting when I see brides who are gown shopping before they have a venue chosen. Nothing is more key in helping you decide what you want then knowing when and where your wedding will be. Now, you may have a place in mind and a certain feel that you want to go for, but there's nothing like KNOWING the space you'll be in so you can imagine yourself on the day.

For time, worry less about season and more about time of day. If you are getting married in August outside, you may make different choices than if you are getting married inside in December. That's just part of the comfort of the dress, and how heavy you are ok with it being. The overall shape and style will be determined by the time of day ( which often has a big influence in how formal the event is) and the location.

I'm not saying don't buy a dress if you don't know where your wedding is. Some people manage to do this and make a great choice. But if you are thinking that you should dress shop as early as possible, I would say, if you have time, wait until the venue is set. It will help you narrow down the overwhelming options out there!

What's the deal with Dye Lots?

2011-05-18T00:22:00.000-07:00

In bridal land, the model has always been that bridesmaids will order the same dress in the same color. So that's the way designers are set up to operate and make the dresses. All the dresses ordered at the same time, same color, same style.

Nowadays, many people no longer order this way. Even if all the bridesmaids are wearing the same style, it may be easier for everyone to order separately based on location. Or, more often than not, people are mixing styles in the same color, or a few colors and styles.

But the way dresses are made hasn't changed. Many designers have multiple locations where dresses are made overseas, and while they make every effort to standardize color, some dye lot variation is inevitable. There just isn't any way to control it absolutely.

What does this mean for you? Basically, it means that if you are ordering different styles, even if you order them all together, you could still get some variation of the color of fabric. Different styles can be made at different times and in different places. The variation is usually pretty slight, but just be aware of the possiblity. Personally, I think if the styles are varied, if you have a little variation of the shade of the fabric in one or more of the dresses, it's not a huge deal. But I know some people want it all spot on, and so if that's you, then get everyone in the same style and order them all together. And that's the deal : )

Why Kate's Dress Ruled ( In my opinion)

2011-05-05T10:28:00.000-07:00

Everyone has something to say about The Dress. Some think it was perfect, some think Kate played it too safe. Some think it was dowdy, some timelessly elegant. Some think Kate has set the trend for years to come, others think that Pippa's dress was far more noteworthy. Well, I'm one of the fans, but what made the dress for me was not just the lines and the lace, but reading about the special details incorporated into both the dress and her accesories.

I won't go into extreme detail, if you're interested, you can read more at the official royal wedding site, see link:

http://www.officialroyalwedding2011.org/blog/2011/April/29/The-Wedding-Dress--Bridesmaids--Dresses-and-Pages--Uniforms

Some highlights:
Her earrings were comissioned by her parents and were inspired by her family's coat of arms. Her bouquet contains stems from a myrtle planted by Queen Victoria in 1845, and a sprig from a plant grown from the myrtle used in The Queen’s wedding bouquet of 1947. Crazy!
And, all the lace on her dress was hand appliqued by The Royal School of Needlework. The lace motifs contain roses, thistles, shamrocks and daffodils, the four different national floral badges of the United Kingdom.

Why this rules:
Kate's dress was simply beatiful, down to the tiniest detail. It wasn't over the top, but the crafstmanship that went into it... holy smokes. Also her choice of accesories and even flowers was full of thought and meaning. All weddings are about more than just putting on a show and making a statement, but I think sometimes we can lose sight of that. Kate's ensemble shows just how gorgeous and special blending modern and traditional elements can be.

When Carryover = Cryover

2011-04-26T13:56:00.000-07:00

What is a carryover style? It's a style from a past season that a designer decides has been successful enough to continue offering. So any dress that is part of a collection but not from the current season is a carryover style. It's a good thing in a lot of ways- if every dress only lasted for one season, customers would have such a short window to buy them, and the longer you keep a dress available, the more opportunity there is to sell it, right?

I understand why designers want to keep dresses that have been successful in their lineup. If it's sold well in the past, it may continue to do so in the future. The problem is when you end up having dresses that are 4 or more seasons old. Even 3 can be pushing it (so it's almost fall 2011 now, 3 seasons back would be Spring 2010.) Bridesmaids the turnaround is a little slower than bridal, I would say. Most stores move old things out as new things come along- there just isn't room to keep every current style around. So, the older a style is, the less likely it is you will be able to find one to see in person.

That's when a carryover will become a cryover. A bride will see a picture of the dress online, think it's amazing, and then won't be able to find it anywhere. If she had never seen the picture, it wouldn't be a big deal. But some people get obsessed with thatpicture, and then compare everything else they see to it, which of course is hopeless, because if you can't see the dress in person, you can't know for sure that it's better. At this point some people just take the leap and go for it, but not everyone can do that. Some people have to see it in person, so they literally end up crying over a. Most designers don't put information about what season a dress is on their website, so you can't necessarily tell how old it is. In general, the farther you have to scroll down or the more pages back you go, the older, but not always.

So, how to avoid this potential pitfall? I would say, if you are a person who needs to see something in person to know it's the one, don't let yourself obsess over anything you see online. Be suspicious of everything. Get some ideas before you try things on, but then wait to see what you can find in person. Magazines will be a little safer, as long as they are recent. Anything more than a year old, don't even go there. Then you won't end up crying over a dress you can never see!

Why I Love Randy Fenoli

2011-04-20T08:35:00.000-07:00

Mainly, I love him because he's adorable and a genius with fashion. But he's just a smart guy in general too.
Here's a little snippet that I thought had some really good advice. Enjoy!

http://blogs.discovery.com/say-yes-to-the-dress/2010/07/randys-rules-revised.html

Fall and Spring and what they bring...

2011-04-12T12:23:00.000-07:00

So, everybody knows that normal clothes change with the season. Right before fall, fall clothes come out. Right before spring (or in our case in Minnesota, when it is still frigidly cold and depressing out) spring clothes come out. That's how it works.

From time to time, I hear from brides that are concerned to hear that the dress they love is from a Fall collection, and they are getting married in the Summer, or the dress is Spring and they are getting married in the Winter, etc.

What people don't realize is that bridal is its own special world, and so the seasonal thing doesn't have any bearing. Since you have to order your gown months ahead of time anyway, this should make sense, but I thought I would just put it out there since the concern seems so strangely common.

Bridal fashion has two seasons, Spring and Fall. Some designers put out a collection only once a year, but many have both Spring and Fall collections( some even do previews, so you could see a Fall preview, then Fall, then pre-Spring, then Spring... it can be a little silly!). Spring collections are usually larger, and it's just a bigger deal. Fall will have some great new things, but not as many, and you aren't as likely to see something earth shattering and new.

So, don't worry about what season your dress is- if you love it, then the timing is just right.

A Note from Captain Obvious: Hair and Makeup for Maids

2011-04-05T12:19:00.000-07:00

I was looking at some photos recently of a wedding, and they looked amazing, except for one tiny problem. One of the bridesmaids had ATROCIOUS hair. It was clearly styled to look the way it looked, it wasn't just an unfortunate accident. And all I saw in those pictures was that bridesmaid's head. It REALLY stuck out. (Her hair was kind of big, and a much darker color than the others).

Here's the deal. Your bridesmaids may be gorgeous girls with great style in general, but that does not mean you should let them just do their thing on the big day. While matchy matchy hairdos are definitely not cute, there should be consistency with the look. Makeup too. Sometimes this just takes care of itself as people get ready together, but to be safe, make sure you are giving some guidelines ahead of time. And don't be afraid to tell someone if they need to change up their look. It will save us all pain in the long run.

Thanks for Listening,
Captain Obvious

Ruffle some Feathers...

2011-04-01T12:17:00.000-07:00

What is it about ruffles? From flower inspired to deconstructed and jagged, with bling or feathers or without, they are everywhere right now, and there is just something about what they do for a dress! They add instant oomph and drama, but there's just something so darn romantic and feminine about even the craziest concoction that just makes you want to get married tomorrow... at least if you're me : )

Some people worry about the trend factor, that in a year or two there will be no more ruffles, but I really don't see that happening. There are always little changes and innovations, but 1) Bridal fashion changes more slowly than regular fashion and 2) There really isn't any one trend that the bridal industry follows these days. There is so much variety, and brides are all looking for such different things, that you really don't have to worry about having the experience of everyone who was married in say, the 80's or even the 90's. The bridal industry is so much more varied now.

So, if you dig it, embrace the ruffled/textured look and fear not. Ruffle it up.

2012 brides- Nice little Article

2011-03-22T14:28:00.000-07:00

I'm always searching for good stuff online to share, and I thought this little post was nice. Planning too far ahead can be tricky in some ways, but it's great for the budget.

http://www.perfectweddingguide.com/wedding-blog/index.php/2010/08/30/wedding-planning-advice-how-should-i-begin-planning-my-2012-wedding/

Think Spring!

2011-03-10T11:41:00.000-08:00

Spring is such a great season- love is in the air, flowers are starting to bloom, and everyone's mood is lighter. Here are some links to sites with some great ideas for spring weddings:

http://www.herecomestheblog.com/category/weddings-by-theme/spring/

http://www.springwedding.org/

http://wedding.theknot.com/real-weddings/spring-weddings.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Get Inspired!

2011-03-01T10:01:00.000-08:00

Below is a link to a great post on WeddingBee showing some gorgeous Red Carpet dresses from recent awards shows. Some lovely ideas here!

http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/03/01/red-carpet-wedding-inspiration/#more-187140

Do not Over- D.I.Y.

2011-02-22T12:53:00.000-08:00

Weddings these days are very much about expressing your unique personality as a couple, so the whole trend towards DIY for as much as possible makes a lot of sense. If you make it, you can have exactly what YOU want, plus it's more special. Bouquets, centerpieces, jewelry, hairpieces, invitations, you name it- so many things lend themselves well to being made by you and a helpful crew of friends and bridesmaids.

And that can be a good thing, but if you try to do too much, it can be a bad thing. There are a lot of things that can be made ahead of time, but then you run into issues of storage and transport sometimes (centerpieces). And if you have a last minute snafu (those flowers you ordered online showed up wilted the day before) you have to do your own troubleshooting just at the very busiest time.

So, I have two pieces of advice if you want to DIY up the proverbial wazoo, but don't want to go insane. 1) Prioritize projects, and 2) Delegate. Not all projects are created equal, so choose things that you can either get a lot of help with, play to you or a close friend/ family memember's talents, or that are just so special and important they can't be left out. And, don't make every project revolve around you. Have a point person who will make sure the table cards get that special touch, or who is in charge of making sure the fascinators for the bridesmaids show up at the wedding and don't get smushed.

I have watched brides go crazy trying to do it all themselves. Don't be one of them. It is NOT a contest : )

You don't have to just take our word for it...

2011-02-16T11:02:00.000-08:00

So, we have awesome testimonials on our site, but everywhere you look online you can find good things about us. I did a search on Wedding Bee, and found some nice comments. We have the best customer service you will find, and our claim is backed up not just on our site, but on other blogs, the Knot, and most importantly, by our brides!

Here is one page on Wedding Bee where I was checking out comments:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/netbridecom-review

Up, up and Away...

2011-02-10T10:12:00.000-08:00

wth Hemlines!

Bridesmaids dresses are now coming shorter than ever before, which can be a blessing and a curse, depending on the height of your bridesmaids! Most are still around the knee, but some of the newest short styles - some from Impression and DaVinci for example- are well above the knee even on someone of average height.

Most designers will offer 5" of extra length, so if the new shorter look is not to your taste, you'll usually have options.
And some designers offer multiple lengths. Jordan, for example, is offering most of their Spring 2011 collection in either knee length, tea length, or floor length.

I can remember when tea length (hits mid calf traditionally) was a big deal. Some people still like that length- it's a little more traditional, I suppose. But almost all short style now are worn either at the knee or slightly above ( Usually not more than an inch or two max). It's the most flattering, and you can work a great pair of heels.

Brides, don't forget to specify where YOU want hemlines on your maids if you have a preference. You can always leave it up to their preference, but give at least a range- around the knee, above the knee, etc.

I'll be interested to see where things go from here. I dont think designers can go much shorter, but I suppose you never know...

Is Your Flowergirl a Wild Child?

2011-01-25T10:41:00.000-08:00

I'm a fan of flowergirls of all personalities: sweet and shy, sweet and not so shy, girly princess types, and of course, the wild ones.
What do I mean by "wild"? I mean the kid who marches to the beat of her own drum, isn't going to go for what you'd expect, and has a personality that stands out from the crowd. (I do not mean badly behaved. One can be a wild child and still vey well mannered!)

There are a couple of different ways you can tackle what can be a challenging task- agreeing on a dress you'll both love.

Way #1: Find a really simple dress, and pick out accessories together that let her express her personality. Let her have choices about a bunch of smaller details.

Way #2: Put her in a color that coordinates but contrasts with the bridesmaids. Traditionally flowergirls are in white or ivory, but I think color is always a great option (and slightly less stressful to try to keep spotless). Then she can feel special in her own color that isn't the same as anyone else's.

Just a couple of ideas! Another really helpful thing can be to look at pictures together before you do any actual shopping, so that you can get a feel for what she is interested in and will enjoy wearing. Ultimately, you're the bride and you're the boss, but a happy flowergirl on your wedding day may be worth a few compromises. Or there's always bribery.... :)

Pounds do not equal Inches

2011-01-18T11:58:00.000-08:00

Maybe it's the time of year, but everyone seems to have weight loss on the brain. I've been in a wedding or two, so I understand all about wanting to tone up, and the thought of all those pictures you'll be in is a powerful motivation for anyone!

So, what do you do if you're like most people, and need to order a dress now to get in time for the wedding, but you know you'll be thinner then? Unfortunately, there's no formula anywhere that says something like: "If you lose 10lbs, you will be one inch smaller in measurement X." Not only is there no way to know how many inches those pounds you lose will bring you down, there is no way to know for sure just where they are coming off.

So, the best way to proceed, even though it's kind of a bummer, is to order the size you are at right now. You should be planning on altering your dress no matter what, and it's not going to make a big difference if you are taking the dress in an extra inch or two. Plus, think how fabulous you'll feel when the dress does come in and feels nice and loose, versus how terrible you'd feel if you did order down a size, but the way you lost the weight (or didn't quite manage to lose it!) doesn't put your measurements down to where they'd need to be that smaller size. You'll feel terrible, and no one needs that kind of stress! Plus, in the long run, you are looking at the potential for far greater expense if you get a dress that's too small and have to try to add in fabric, etc. Taking in is a breeze compared to that!

So remember, however many pounds you have as your goal to lose, be calm, cool, and practical, and just order for where you are right now. Sleeping at night is also very important to help you look as gorgeous as possible : )

Colorful Creations

2010-12-30T09:46:00.000-08:00

Don't forget to check out the shoe line we carry- Colorful Creations. They have some great stuff, and some of their shoes are dyeable.

http://colorfulcreations.com/

Chiffon: The Fabric of 2011?

2010-12-17T09:49:00.000-08:00

Chiffon, like most fabrics, has been around since forever. A really new fabric doesn't come along very often. New variants, yes.
And for a while, chiffon was not very popular. It has its downsides- if you snag it, there's not a lot you can do, and because it has a matte finish certain colors just don't work very well. If you're looking for really deep, saturated color, chiffon tends to be softer and lighter most of the time.

But, that said, there are more reasons why it's become so popular. As wedding gowns with ruffles and soft textured details have become all the rage, chiffon has grown in popularity because it's such a great complement to this type of gown as well as many others. Soft, romantic, and with just some simple draping you can have an elegant bridesmaids dress that is simple but not plain. Also, it's light and often more comfortable to wear than a stiff satin or taffeta. It's not the "typical bridesmaids" fabric.

So, for Spring 2011 there will be other fabrics and styles out there of course, but chiffon styles will dominate. For now...

Bridesmaids Questionnaire

2010-12-10T08:03:00.000-08:00

After the wedding gown, bridesmaids are the most important clothing choice you'll make for your big day. I suggest taking some time to think things over before you go out shopping, and if you have a large party don't take everyone shopping the first time out. Take one or two bridesmaids with different body types to help you explore the options. Here are some things to ask yourself before and during shopping:

1)Do you prefer to have all your bridesmaids in the same style, or do you prefer the look of different dresses? This is one of the first things you'll want to decide as it will dramatically impact your shopping process. If you want different styles, you'll need to find a line that has a variety of styles that you like in the same color and fabric.

2)How much are you and your maids willing to spend on the dresses? Discuss price range before you start shopping, so that if there are any issues you know and can work out a plan (Example: One bridesmaid can't afford the full price of a dress until she gets her Xmas bonus, you agree to cover the difference for now and she'll pay you back later.)

3)What colors would work well with both the look of your wedding and the various skin tones in your wedding party? Having a color or colors in mind is a good idea, but having a very specific color in mind could drastically limit your choices. Color availability varies by designer, and by fabric within designer, so some dresses will have a lot of options, and other will be more limited.

4) How will the dresses look next to your dress? Do you want them to have a similar look and style, or do you want them to contrast with your dress?

5) What are the things you care most about having in a bridesmaids dress, and what are you flexible on? Make a list of what the top priorities are, and stick to it. It will help you narrow down your options, and make the whole process go more smoothly.

6) Who is the bride? This isn't a trick question- it's one I often want to ask when I hear outspoken friends, mothers, sisters, etc trying to tell brides what they should do or what would be best. At the end of the day, you are the bride, and while you should consider the thoughts and feelings of your bridesmaids, you have the final say.

Non- traditional Bouquet Ideas

2010-11-30T08:39:00.000-08:00

Flowers are gorgeous, and there are so many ways to make a unique arrangement that is beautiful and expresses your style.

But what if you are not a bouquet, or a flower person? What if carrying flowers just isn't for you?

Here are a few ideas that I think make great alternatives to a floral bouquet.

1) Carry a special book. It could be a small prayer book that's been in your family, or your favorite poet, or the novel that you and your fiance discussed on your first date. Find something with a beautiful old binding, or have it covered to compliment the look of your wedding.

2) Make a "bouquet" out of something besides flowers. It may still look like flowers, but it will be a unique piece of art. I've seen really beatuful ones made from fabric, and GORGEOUS ones made out of brooches and other old jewelry.

3) Carry a beautiful or funky accessory: a parasol, a clutch or handbag, even a fan. There are so many great vintage treasures out there just waiting to be found and incorporated into your special day. Or you can go sleek and modern too. The options are endless.

4) Carry just a copy of your vows, folded and tied with a ribbon.

5) Carry nothing. You are both offering yourselves, and that is the most important thing.

Whatever it is you decide to do, it's a great idea to either make a note in the program about what you are carrying and why, or if it fits into the ceremony and your story, have the officiant say a few words about it. That way your guests will "get it" and you'll be able to share your uniqueness and creativity with everyone.

The look of silk for the price of... not silk?

2010-11-17T11:40:00.001-08:00

I am a silk lover. Dupioni. Shantung. Even silk satin, although I prefer something textured. However, I do not love how much silk costs. It makes me very sad, and somewhat cranky.

However, I have found three great designers that make alternatives to silk that look very much like the real deal. If you know fabric, you will of course know the difference, but what these alternatives offer is an overall look that is similar. A couple of differences: The synthetics tend to be a little stiffer (which can be good if you like a fabric with more body), and don't have the same sheen as the silk. Color options are going to vary of course, in general (like with any more unique fabric) they will be a little more limited than say, a straight up satin.

Here are my faves:
Wtoo Shantung: It's a poly shantung, and there are some very cute short styles ( as well as long) that i like.

Alfred Sung Dupioni: One nice feature of this line, is that pretty much every dress that is available in Peau de Soie is also made in Dupioni (and vice versa) for the same price. They have some great options if you wanted to mix styles.

Jim Hjelm Dupioni: I love Jim Hjelm's color palette, and the dresses tend to be a little more high style.

How do you Decide?

2010-11-10T14:27:00.000-08:00

I heard an interesting comment recently about deciding on a wedding gown. The person pointed out that buying a wedding gown is, and is SUPPOSED to be be, an emotional purchase. That doesn't mean everyone will cry, but what it does mean is that you are using different criteria to make the decision than you do most purchases. As you shop, you should pay as much attention to how you feel as what you think. Your brain may tell you that a gown looks good on, but if it doesn't make your heart beat a little faster, then it's probably not the one for you. It may sound a little trite, but I firmly believe that if you really listen to your own inner voice, you will know when you find "the one." Sometimes that voice isn't easy to hear amidst what can be the chaos of dress shopping, but if you narrow it down and just take some time, one dress will stand out from the crowd.
So, allow yourself some emotional space when you shop. Don't try to get in every store and include every friend and family member possible. Choose your stores carefully, and choose your shopping companion(s) even more carefully. Make it easy on yourself, so that you can find a gown that is truly "you."

Website Feedback?

2010-11-05T08:31:00.000-07:00

If anyone has feedback about our website, we are always looking to improve, so feel free to share what would make your experience with our website better. We appreciate your input!

Ideas, Ideas, Ideas

2010-10-27T09:10:00.000-07:00

Here's a great article from CNN of all places, when they interviewed a planner back in July. There are some great ideas in here: mixing shapes and sizes of tables, creating a lounge space for guests, and most of all MIXING THINGS UP.

Tradition is good, but have fun with it. Don't worry about what the timetable is supposed to be- incorporate the customs you want, leave the ones you don't, and pace things the way it works for you.

http://articles.cnn.com/2010-07-30/living/hot.wedding.trends_1_wedding-extravaganza-nighttime-event-cnn?_s=PM:LIVING

Small Ceremony, Big Reception....does it work?

2010-10-20T08:33:00.000-07:00

My fiance and I are having this debate right now. We have a lot of family that are close, but not THAT close who'd be fun to have at the party, and just a few immediate family and close friends. So, could we have most people come to the reception only?

I personally don't see an issue with this, but have been assured by my Mr. to be that this plan would mortally offend some senior family members, so I don't know where we'll end up. Also, I have heard other friends say that they don't think it works. Everyone who comes to the reception should also be invited to the wedding. But I wonder, does a smaller, more intimate cermony make things more meaningful? I had a friend get married recently, who had a family only wedding, and then a huge party afterward, and she felt that the smaller cermony was much more emotional and meaningful. On the other hand, including everyone and having a lot of people present when you make those vows could also be very meaningful ( I should note that in our case we are talking about 220 tops, not like a crowd of 500 or anything!).

So, I remain up in the air about the whole thing, and it may just depend on personality, the families involved, etc. But I'd be interested to know what other people think about this "trend."

Quote of Note

2010-10-13T10:47:00.000-07:00

A friend showed me this quote, which I assume is from one of those forwards people are always sending, and which I usually delete. But I thought this was pretty great, and we can all use a little more humor in our lives. So the next time I'm feeling witchy, I can think of myself as "flexible" instead.

Thought for the day:
Women are angels,
And when someone breaks our wings...
We simply continue to fly... on a broomstick....

We are flexible like that!

Who's Afraid of the Big Black Sash?

2010-10-05T10:11:00.000-07:00

Apparently nobody. We're seeing it in all the magazines now, and several recently- wed celebrities have worked this look.
It can be bold and a little edgy, or sophisticated and glamorous. Either way, that pop of black at the narrowest part of the waist draws the eye right where you want it, which is part of the reason this trend is so hot. It's something new and different, and also VERY flattering. If only fashion could always be this way....

So, I'm thinking we'll see a lot of black sash options coming out for spring. Also, one of my favorite things is seeing people with custom accessories- so find a gown that you can add a sash to, and then the sky is the limit. You can go with a simple ribbon, or have a friend or relative help make something artsy, whatever. Then you make the trend your own, which makes it extra fabulous.

The Lowdown #2: Bari Jay

2010-09-29T08:25:00.000-07:00

Bari Jay is all about glamour. They have simple styles too, but most of their line is a little on the daring side, not your “typical bridesmaid.” If you are looking for long chiffon dresses, they have some very elegant options, also some great short and sassy styles. Overall they tend towards a more formal, evening look.
One downside to the line as a whole is that the fabrics don’t have quite as much variety for color, especially compared with many other bridesmaids lines. That’s not to say that Bari Jay doesn’t offer options, but where another designer might have 60 satin colors they’ll have 30. They do have some colors that can be hard to find- for instance a very mustardy yellow- called “Mustard!,” and also a green called “Forest” that is kind of leafy, not dark, not too bright. I’m a fan!
Recently Bari Jay started what they call their “White” line, which is bridal. We don’t carry it through Netbride, but it’s basically bridesmaids as wedding gowns. Nothing too tremendous. A lot of their other bridesmaids styles can come in white or ivory, but not all. It's a little confusing!
Bari Jay does make junior styles to match some, not all of its bridesmaids dresses. Like most junior maids lines, they modify the styles so that they appropriate for younger girls. The styles they do for juniors tend to be the simpler, more classic ones for obvious reasons.
So, if you are going for an elegant evening look, or want something really interesting (like a one shoulder with one long sleeve), check out Bari Jay!

Give your Bridesmaids a Job Description

2010-09-23T11:25:00.000-07:00

Traditions vary, change and evolve, and it is often unclear ( other than some glaringly obvious duties, like stand up at the wedding!) what is expected of a bridesmaid. There are books, magazine articles, and blog posts discussing this, but what it really comes down to is what the bride wants/needs. And that can vary a lot.

So, in order to avoid any confusion, hurt, or frustration, err on the side of giving too much info. If you are having showers, parties, etc, let them know which dates you'd like them to keep free and how you see their role in the event. Give them a breakdown of what you're thinking for the wedding day and days leading up to it. Make clear who is paying for what for any expenses like clothing, shoes, accesories, accomodations, etc. Don't assume that they know your expectations, and also ask them what theirs are. If you are thinking they will have a lot of things to be involved in, and they are thinking they just show up for the wedding, that needs to be clarified.

Who gives a rib…cage?

2010-09-14T09:17:00.001-07:00

I do. And so should everyone who has anything to do with ordering gowns in any way.
No designer asks for the ribcage measurement, but the size of women’s ribs can vary even for the same bust measurement. Some designers are notoriously cut narrow through the ribcage area: Jim Hjelm and Mori Lee are definitely in that category.

So, what can YOU do to make sure your rib cage doesn’t cause you any headaches? Here are a few things.

1) Know your body. As you try on dresses, if you notice that things that fit well in other areas are constricting you through the torso, your rib cage is probably relatively large for your frame.
2) If you know you have a large ribcage and/or you are looking at a designer that is cut narrow in that area, you’ll usually see that your waist measurement puts you up a size from your other measurements. Not always, but the waist measurement is usually the best indicator when your ribcage is an issue. So be aware of your waist measurement!
3) Remember that you can always take in, but it’s more difficult, and sometimes impossible, to let a dress out. So don’t take risks, plan to take it in.

The Lowdown #1: Watters, Wtoo, and WaWa

2010-09-07T12:26:00.000-07:00

Periodically, I'm going to do a nice long informational blog about different designers we carry. I'll try to keep it brief, but there is a lot to say!

In their own words, Watters gowns are “Sophisticated,” “Gorgeous,” “Fresh,” and “Graceful.” When I think Watters, I think of two things: elegance and style. Their gowns are of an exceptional quality both in terms of fabric and design, and everything they do is done well. Here are some characteristics of each line:

Watters Bridal:
If you are looking for great design, timeless elegance, and you care about fabrics, Watters is your line. Most of their dresses are silk, and they are just stunning. They have a great range of details, from classic lace to modern textured floral elements, but even their more whimsical styles still have class.
While some of their gowns do have quirky details, Watters overall has a more traditional, romantic feel. If you are looking for something very sleek and modern, or sassy and “out there,” they won’t have as many options for you. Also, because of the silk fabrics, their price point tends higher.

Wtoo Bridal:
Wtoo is the lighter side of Watters. Still elegant and classy, their dresses tend to be a little lighter in terms of construction, slightly less formal, and they use alternatives to silk so they are a little less weighty for the budget as well. If you are looking for an over the top, crazy beaded dress, you won’t find it here. If you want something elegant that doesn’t take itself too seriously, check Wtoo out.

Watters and Wtoo Maids:
As far as design goes, these two lines are very similar. They tend towards the elegant but have some fun things as well. The major difference you will find is in the fabrics: Watters has silks, Wtoo doesn’t, so the pricing trends of the wedding gown follow here: Watters tends higher, Wtoo is more reasonable. Most of their shorter dresses also come in floor length, and the lines use some of the same fabrics. So if you want to let your bridemaids do all different styles, there are a lot of different dresses in the same fabric between the two lines.

WaWa:
Watters Flower girls has styles that can work for little ones and also some that work for Junior maids. They use the same fabrics as the bridesmaids lines for the most part, and some of their styles are similar. You won’t find a lot of options for junior bridesmaids here, but they have some very classic satin styles if that’s what you’re looking for. The flower girl dresses work well with the wedding gown lines but aren’t too matchy.

100th Post!

2010-08-31T12:18:00.000-07:00

This is my 100th post!
I'd like to thank my mom, for giving me the faith in myself that I could do whatever I put my mind to.... just kidding : )

I may be the only one who's excited, but that's ok. I've learned a lot researching some of these posts, and I like to think that there are brides out there, maybe reading but not responding, who've found some little tidbit useful.

Next week, I will begin doing intros to all the designers we carry, with info that I hope will be helpful in navigating the many many choices that are out there.

Flower Power!

2010-08-25T09:24:00.000-07:00

Whether or not you embrace or eschew a wedding veil, a flower in the hair is often the perfect accent to complete your look. Most flower accessories are extremely versatile: you can place them wherever you want, and they will work with almost any hair style. There are a vast variety of different styles out there, so whether your style is classic, out-there, or anywhere in between, you can find something that complements your gown and shows your personality. Above are three different styles by Erica Koesler (my favorite veil/headpiece maker!) to give you taste:

The first style is A-5341. It's cute and sweet and a little bit retro. Next is A-398- it is a gorgeous, softly romantic piece that has just a hint of sparkle. Last is A-418. It's much more dramatic, and guess what? IT COMES IN BLACK!

Check out www.ericakoesler.com for lots of other fabulous options!

Fact or Fiction?: Strapless means it'll Slide Down

2010-08-17T08:41:00.000-07:00

Have you ever heard anyone say this: "Oh, you don't want a strapless dress. You'll be pulling it up the whole night!"? I'm sure many people have been to a wedding where this is the case. But, the issue is not the lack of straps but a lack of fit. Let me explain what I mean.

Every woman's body has a curve in at the waist and out at the hip to some degree. Some people have it more than others, but it's there no matter what. So if you get a dress that is fitted at the waist at all, whether it's natural waist or drop, if that dress is fitted properly to your waist, it should not be able to slide down over the hip. The shape of the body won't allow it, unless the dress isn't fitted enough. So make sure you have alterations to make the dress fit perfectly.

There are also a couple of other things to keep in mind as you select a strapless gown:
1) If you are busty, make sure the bodice has adequate depth. Every dress is cut a little differently, so some will work and some will be too shallow. If you get something that doesn't have the right shape in the bust to be able to accommodate your figure, it won't be comfortable even when it's "correctly" fitted.
2) If you are small busted, make sure have to the bodice taken in enough, and know that you may need to sew in cups to fill it out. Most bodices are boned to enhance a woman's shape, some more so than others, so look for things that have a delicate cut.
3) Gowns also have different amounts of structure. Almost all strapless gowns have some type of boning in the bodice- they have to ! But some are more structured than others, so choose accordingly. Make sure the bodice of the dress you choose has enough structure that you feel secure.

So, the strapless=sliding down thing is a fiction, as long as you get your dress fitted. Even the perfect cut for you will most likely need to be altered so that it is also a perfect fit. Be sure to take it to a good, experienced seamstress so that you can enjoy your day worry free!

White or Ivory? ( Or Diamond White or Champagne or Frost, etc.)

2010-08-10T15:16:00.000-07:00

The first thing to know about choosing a color for your wedding gown ( and most gowns do come in at least two options, so you will probably have a choice) is that it should be easy. Once you put on a gown, you know whether it flatters you or not, and the same is true of the color. Here are a few things to know though, just to make it even easier : )

1) Every culture is different, but in mainstream American culture now, the color of your dress does not mean anything as far as purity, etc. The choice between white and ivory now is about what is flattering. Champagne tones are quite prevalent as well, for brides of all ages, and they used to be just for the more "mature" bride. So don't worry about what people are going to think about the color- if you look great, that is the most important thing, whether or not everyone gets it.

2)Your true white is actually flattering on very few people. Ladies with darker skin tones wear white the best. Here is a test: Most people try to get a little bit of a tan before their wedding (it looks healthy, right?), but you should not need a tan to look good in your dress. If white washes you out or looks harsh now, it is not going to be much better if you have a tan.

3) I personally think most fabrics look better in ivory. It's richer, and softer, and because it's the most flattering on most people, it's just the best option. For a crisp but still soft look, diamond white is a great alternative as well. In between white and ivory, most people don't know it's not "white" unless you tell them.

So, back to my main point, don't stress it. If you are one of those rare people who looks good in white or ivory, go with what YOU like best, and remember, you are going to be looking at yourself in photographs for years to come, so do what makes you happy! You will be gorgeous!

The look for less: Chelsea Inspired style: Ceremony Dress

2010-08-03T11:45:00.000-07:00

The Vera Wang dress Chelsea Clinton wore was very on trend but traditional at the same time. I thought this Impressions dress was a simplified version of this idea. Instead of a really full textured skirt, it has a more fitted one with just a few ruffles. The top is more sweetheart, still has some ruching, and the beaded detail is sewn on, not a separate belt. The style is "Fiorella"

http://www.impressionbridal.com

Vowcabulary: "Eclectigant"

2010-07-27T10:10:00.000-07:00

I think "eclectigant" - eclectic + elegant - is a really great word. Because the feel it describes is not just one plus the other, it is a blend of the qulities, just like the word is a blend of their letters.... this may sound silly, but I think it is important!

I think I really did make up a word this time. I hope. I was pretty crushed when "pre-ance" turned out to be already in use. There is very seldom anything new under the sun, so someone somehwhere probably has used it. But when I googled it, nothing came up, and that's good enough for me!

Some Notes on Ceremony Music

2010-07-20T11:52:00.001-07:00

The music you choose for your ceremony sets the tone of your wedding just as much as the decor. It should reflect who you are as a couple, but also blend well with the scene you have set. Here are some do's and dont's to help guide your selections.

1)Do: Keep it simple, and keep it classy. Even though everyone wants to stand out and express themselves a bit, you are better off going with a classic love song that fits the mood.

2) Do: Think about instrumentation. If you are planning to use solo piano or guitar accompaniment and have a friend sing, for example, you'll want to make sure the song you choose works well for the people involved. Many popular songs, when they are pared down to just voice and instrumental accompaniment, don't stand up well. Pick something that has a beautiful melody and meaningful lyrics.

3) Don't: Wait until the last minute to plan the music and who you will have perform it. If you are getting married in a house of worship, more than likely they will have someone on staff, or suggestions for who you could have do the music for you. If you plan to hire a professional, they should be booked as far in advance as possible. If you are having friends or family, you need to give them time to prepare so that they are comfortable. Don't put someone on the spot!

4) Do: Include tradition if possible. Your guests will enjoy hearing something familiar, and it will bring back good memories.

5) Don't forget to include the ceremony music in your budget. If you're using a DJ for both ceremony and reception, or just using recorded music, that may be done for you. But even if you're just doing a CD, you may want to have someone who really knows what they are doing do the sound for you- you want things to go smoothly!

Joining the Party of "No"?

2010-07-13T17:37:00.000-07:00

Saying "Yes" to a proposal sets off the wedding planning process. There are so many choices to make, options to consider, and it is usually both exhausting and fun to get everything figured out. I feel like after that one resounding "Yes!," my fiance and I turned into "No!" party of two. So many venues, caterers, and ideas to reject. So many things that were just not "us." So many helpful offers that were a little less helpful than intended.... you get the picture. Must every "Yes" preceded by a series of "No. Not that one. Not quite. I don't think so. Uh uh. Well..."? I think being particular is a good thing, but sheesh! Anyone else out there feel like they are having the same party I am? Hopefully it's all the sweeter when you get to "Yes" when there is a trail of "No" behind you.

In Favor of the Fingertip Veil

2010-07-06T11:27:00.000-07:00

There's a huge trend right now for short sassy veils, lots of birdcages with fun accessories, feathers, you name it. And this is a good trend- not everyone is into the traditional look, and brides now have so many more options to express themselves than they did even just a few years ago. But I want to revisit an old favorite, the classic veil that is the most popular of all time: the fingertip length veil. I prefer the single layer version, simply edged. It's the perfect touch that says "bride," but doesn't call a lot of attention to itself. And you have the elegant, longer line withouth the weight and hassle of a veil that goes to the floor or more.
By all means try on a variety, but while you're at it, don't skip over the lovely simplicity of a fingertip veil!

Erica Koesler makes some of my favorites. Check out www.ericakoesler.com. The one pictured above is style 608-40.

For the Groom

2010-06-29T17:27:00.001-07:00

No one does it better than Martha- here are some words of wisdom straight from her to you about what your most important accessory should look like:

http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/article/best-dressed-for-the-groom

The Look for Less: Alfred Sung Maids as an alternative to Jim Hjelm

2010-06-22T09:05:00.001-07:00

Jim Hjelm has a super cute style with a ruffled collar- JH5070, and they have other dresses that are similar. Alfred Sung just recently put up their fall collection, and they have a dress with some similar characteristics that is even more budget friendly, so take a peek. Some might say that there's no comparing the two because of differences in fabric, etc., but I think this Alfred Sung dress give the Jim Hjelm a run for its money : ) There are a couple versions of the Alfred Sung dress, but you could start with D467 and D466. No luck finding pictures other than on the designers websites, sorry, but here are the links for you:

http://www.dessy.com/bridesmaid-dresses/alfredsung/

http://www.jlmcouture.com/Jim-Hjelm-Occasions/Bridesmaid/Fall/2010/Style-5070

More Vowcab: Up the panache with Soutache!

2010-06-15T11:29:00.000-07:00

Soutache is a type of trim. It's a narrow, flat braid, often in a herrinbone pattern. You'll see it on veils a lot, and I once had a jacket trimmed with a swirly pattern in soutache.

Vowcab Time: What is a "peplum"?

2010-06-09T10:01:00.001-07:00

A peplum is a short overskirt or ruffle attached to the waistline of a jacket, blouse or dress.

Budget Tips

2010-06-02T12:10:00.000-07:00

There a bazillion tips and tricks out there to save on little things. Do your own floral arranging. Make your invitations. Get makeup samples. And on and on. Here are a few bigger ideas that believe it or not, not everyone thinks of.

1)Set your budget BEFORE you start planning. You may need to revise it slightly, but you want to decide what you can really afford ahead of time so that you will be prepared to stick to your guns and can rule out things that just won't work. A little tough love at the start of your planning process will save you tears and regrets later when you can't afford things you need because you spent to much on just a few items you wanted. There are all kinds of tools online to help you figure out what percentage of your budget should go where.

2)Decide what your priorities are. You can spend more on your reception if you have fewer guests, or more on the invites if you save big on your caterer. Decide what is the most important and go from there.

3) Discuss expectations ahead of time with everyone involved- parents, wedding party, etc. Get clear who is paying for what from the get-go, and things will be much smoother afterwards even if it is awkward in the beginning.

4)Be proud of your budget! It may not be a million bucks, but everyone involved worked hard for that money. And it is far wiser to be the bride who will not spend $200 more on that cake than she wants to spend even if she gets XYZ for it, than to be that bride with the mile long credit card bill that won't go away. Your wedding is a very special time, but so is the time that comes after it!

As Seen In...

2010-05-26T10:37:00.000-07:00

In the June issue of brides, two fabulous dresses from lines we carry can be found on page 80:
"Amanda" by Impressions is dress #1, and Mori Lee style 2517 is dress number #3 in their lineup of dresses to flatter different figure types(both are 1 shoulder styles). Check them out! (Below the Impression is first, Mori Lee second).

www.impressionbridal.com
www.morilee.com

Tips on Sizing

2010-05-20T10:19:00.000-07:00

We've got instructions for how to measure on our site, and all the size charts. Here are a couple of things to keep in mind as you are evaluating measurements to help you make the best choice.

1) Don't play the "maybe I won't have to alter it if I order it smaller" game. If you order a dress too small, it is much more difficult to let a dress out than take it in, and there is no guarantee that it can be let out the amount you need. Budget for alterations to the bodice of the dress and through the hip if it is fitted.

2) Try on a sample if possible, or a similar dress from the line you are ordering from. Keep in mind that samples stretch, so you don't want to base your choice solely on the sample, but this can help guide your choice.

3) When in doubt, you are always better going with the larger size. You can always take it in, you can't always let it out.

4) Don't assume that you will be the same size in one desginer as another. They are all different, and some are cut smaller in certain areas than others. Also, don't assume that you will be the same size as someone else in your party who you normally are the same size as.

5)Get your measurements professionally done if possible- it is very important to start with accurate measurements, so help yourself out! If that's not an option, be sure to read the instructions we give.

Tread softly...

2010-05-11T17:26:00.000-07:00

You know the Yeats poem about the heavens' embroidered cloths? There's a line that says something like "tread softly, for you tread on my dreams." You come up with some interesting stuff when you search an image to go with that, let me tell you... Anyway, I think I am going to get a shirt that says this, and wear it to work every day. Or make my brides wear it when they have friends and family "helping" them shop. Maybe that could be their take-home gift. I recently listened to a friend rip a bride's favorite, carefully selected dress to shreds verbally, and I couldn't help thinking to myself "Is this really necessary?" Of course people want to share their thoughts, they want the bride to be as beautiful as she can be. But is it necessary to be cruelly blunt? Especially when they know that their friend is ecstatically happy over a dress? I don't think so. This isn't reality TV, no one is impressed, and the bride will is depressed... no one wins. There are ways to express opinions without trampling on what could be the dress of someone's dreams. Thank you for listening, cyberspace....

Inspirations #1

2010-05-05T08:35:00.000-07:00

I really liked this slideshow (see the link below) from the Knot. All the ideas are good, but the monogram idea and the fleur de lis were particularly nice. I like the idea of a simple motif as the unifying factor- very elegant and understated.

http://weddings.theknot.com/Real-Weddings/29164/view.aspx?type=1&id=29164

Look out!

2010-04-28T09:09:00.000-07:00

We get a lot of emails asking us to match prices/promotions from other websites- who doesn't shop around these days, and who wants to pay more than they absolutely have to? Some of these are from reputable sources, but there are a TON of websites out there that are just not legit. Many of them are operating out of China. We always say that if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. If someone is offering you free shipping from China (which is not cheap), and a dress for a fraction of what it would normally cost- not a good idea to go with that company. At best you'll end up with a low quality copy that is not from the designer, at worst, with no dress and no recourse.

Destination Planning Tips

2010-04-23T12:51:00.000-07:00

I thought this was such smart and to the point practical advice that I am just putting what I found on Marth Stewart Weddings here.

"There are four factors. Weather: Make sure it's not hurricane season. Dates: Make sure it's not spring break, or flights will be astronomical; also be sure it's not when locals go on holiday -- like August in Europe -- or it will be a ghost town. Language: Are you okay if not everyone can speak English? Travel convenience: Is it just one direct flight, or connecting flights to a boat and then a bus ride? And visit the location beforehand; you'd hate to show up for your wedding only to find out the photo on the website didn't show the big construction site next to your reception. I love Sayulita, Mexico. It's an old fishing village about 45 minutes from Puerta Vallarta, and it has both luxurious and affordable accommodations. I also love Harbour Island in the Bahamas, which is quaint and easy to get to," says Alison Hotchkiss, an events planner.

http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/photogallery/tips-for-planning-a-destination-wedding

Belts from Private Label by G

2010-04-14T14:28:00.000-07:00

Private Label by G is now offering a selection of belt styles that coordinate with their gowns- they can be purchased separately, so you don't HAVE to have one of their gowns to get a belt. They are pictured mostly with the Destiny styles, pretty classic stuff, nothing wild (Private Label tends to be on the traditional side as a rule). They all have a couple of color options- white and ivory for most styles. I am awaiting pricing information from them, but Private Label overall is a little pricier than many lines, so I’m sure the belts will be similar. So if you’re looking for a really inexpensive belt option, this is not it, but if you are looking for something with really pretty, high quality, classic looking beading, they will have some good options.

Their site: www.privatelabel.com
Our site: www.netbride.com

What about those Wrinkles?

2010-04-08T12:11:00.000-07:00

Many people have questions about pressing/steaming gowns once they receive them, and the best advice I have is this: if you have to ask how to do it, then you should probably have someone else take care of it! Most people who do alterations will also press/steam the gown for you. If you’re determined to do it yourself, here are a few things to keep in mind (I’m not an expert on garment care, so this is mostly common sense ): There will be information on the tag- so read the tags on the dress very carefully! Often it is easiest to just press the gown, using a cloth to protect the fabric. Some fabrics will get spots if you steam them or get water on them (most taffetas for instance), so be sure to check that out. Also, it helps a lot just to hang the dress up properly, and for most veils all you should need to do is hang it up- any creases will fall out with a little time.

An addition to my "vow-cabulary"

2010-03-31T09:01:00.000-07:00

I got really excited last week, because I thought I made up a word: “pre-ancé.” It turns out, this word was already out there. I had never heard it, so I thought I would post about it anyway. Your “pre-ancé” (or “pre-ancée”) is the person you are pre-engaged to. You know it’s going to happen soon, but you’re in that in-between, ring-less phase. It’s a very handy word and describes a relational state that most people find themselves in at least for a while before they’re engaged. I have a friend who helped her man pick out the ring, but they aren’t getting married until she graduates two years from now. So, they’re waiting to get engaged until closer to when they actually want to get married. It makes a lot of sense. However, he’s not just her boyfriend anymore, he definitely qualifies as a pre-ancé.

She Says vs. He Says: What do you do if your Mr. doesn’t think you’ve chosen the right gown?

2010-03-23T17:01:00.000-07:00

Is that a good "ooh" or a bad "ooh" this groom is oohing? (I'm pretty sure that's a good "ooh".)

I know few future grooms who are ever shown the dress before the day, and even fewer who would be so bold as to go against what is clearly the bride’s heart’s desire, but an appointment I witnessed parts of the other day made me wonder- how often does it happen that the groom to be has a strong opinion on the dress to be, and he’s not saying “Yes” to the dress?

I mean, it has to happen quite a bit that what the groom envisioned in a bridal ensemble is not in fact what he sees walking down the aisle. Hopefully in the process of planning a wedding together most couples come to an understanding of what the ”vision” is for the day, or in the process leading up to the wedding both sides have embraced the differences in personal style that characterize the one they love, but still. If he didn’t love your dress, and you knew it, what would you do? Do you know of anyone who has been in this situation, either before or on the day of the wedding? In an ideal world, the bride would be confident in her choice and feel gorgeous anyway, and her man would love the way she looked even if the dress was not his fave, but I bet it isn’t always that pretty…

Get Fresh!

2010-03-16T15:32:00.000-07:00

Nothing is classier than a fresh flower in the hair for your wedding day. It’s elegant and classic, but can be fun, flirty, or funky too depending on how you execute it. Also, for the more adventurous there are many ways work flowers into your ensemble in a less traditional way. Try adding a chain of tiny blossoms as an accessory with your gown, or even scattering them in your veil. The April issue of Brides has a great spread with some beautiful examples of how this can be done. I especially love the idea of working them in to a necklace. With the current trend for eclectic mixes and layering of necklaces, you could work some blossoms in for an additional bit of texture that is beautiful as well as modern and fun. Of course there is always a downside to working with fresh flowers- potential wilting and mess! Just make sure you have some spare blooms on hand in case you need to do a quick switch out, and choose blooms that are known for their stamina.

This picture is from theknot: http://media.theknot.com/ImageStage/Objects/0003/0027939/alt_image_1.jpg

Customize a Flower girl Dress with US Angels!

2010-03-04T14:03:00.000-08:00

US Angels has always had some different flower and sash options, but they’ve introduced their “A Custom Event” line for 2010 that makes it simple and easy. You pick a dress, you pick a sash, you pick a flower. This gives you about a million options. The dresses themselves come in white or ivory for the most part ( style 276 only comes in ivory).

Go here to get started:
http://www.usangels.com/collection_return_usangels_customevent.jsp

Pashminas from Dessy!

2010-02-23T14:39:00.000-08:00

The Dessy group now offers gorgeous pashminas in a variety of colors, and they are VERY reasonable. They’re a nice size, about 27” wide by 73” long, and they’re not synthetic either: 60% wool, 40% silk.

Here is the address to see a picture and check out the color options (the Dessy site actually lets you change the color, which is great!) They have tons of other great accessories too.

http://www.dessy.com/accessories/pashmina/

For a quote: http://www.netbride.com/bridal-price-quote.htm

Does anyone else see a wedding dress in this picture?

2010-02-17T10:11:00.000-08:00

Maybe it's the lace up back that I know is there even though you just have a front view here. Maybe it's the draping. But I look at this dress and think, gee, that would be cute in ivory! It would be fabulous for an outdoor wedding or laid back affair of some sort. Put some fun accessories with it to jazz it up. Done! And, since a bridesmaids dress, you're not going to spend much at all.

Take a closer look on Bill Levkoff's site, you can change the color to ivory and see the back view!
http://www.billlevkoff.com/#/91/bill-levkoff-bridesmaid-dress-style-530/530/

New from Mori Lee- Quick Delivery Styles!

2010-02-10T08:15:00.000-08:00

Mori Lee now offers some of their best-selling styles on a faster delivery schedule at NO EXTRA CHARGE!!!! The color options are limited, but the dresses can be to you, the customer, in about 8 weeks!

Here are the styles and color options:
#230- available in Vintage Black or Teal
#262- available in Black or Peacock
#269- available in Purple or Praline
#229- available in Black or Claret
#735- available in Black, Chocolate, or Royal
#803- available in Purple or Vintage Leaf

Mori Lee also offers a rush cut option on ALL of their Mori Lee Bridesmaids and Affairs for $35 per dress. There is no rush cut available for Ava styles, unfortunately.

Here is the Mori Lee site, you can look up each style by number and check them out!

http://www.morilee.com/

We carry Liz Fields and LoVeLa!

2010-02-02T16:18:00.000-08:00

You may have noticed this on our list of designers, but just in case I thought I should announce that Netbride now carries LIz Fields bridesmaids and the LoVeLa wedding gown line.

Check out both lines at www.lizfields.com.

A Shoe for You (the Bride)

2010-01-28T14:33:00.000-08:00

Brides need fun shoes. Nobody sees them most of the time, but they're like fun undies- knowing you have them on just makes everything better. Admittedly, you may not have a lot of time to contemplate your undies or shoes on the big day, but I think subconciously it helps to have fab footwear holding you up.

Netbride carries a line called Colorful Creations that has about a bazillion different styles, and they have everything from fun blingy strappy ( like style "Mission"), or their "Brianna Leigh" line that has silks. They have style you can dye, although you'll have to find a place that will dye shoes for you because we don't do that through NB (too messy!). The ones you can dye usually end with the numbers "30."

Here is a link to their site and the sparkly style I mentioned above:
http://colorfulcreations.com/?page=22&product_id=3023

Check it out!

Trends for 2010

2010-01-20T08:37:00.000-08:00

Here are some trends for wedding wear in 2010 and designers who exemplify that trend.

1) Soft, romantic textures: think tulle, ruffles, fabric flowers both small and large. Mori Lee 2513 is one fun option.

2) Birdcage veils are still big, and hats are also very hot. Erica Koestler has some great options.

3) Keeping the wedding a little smaller, simpler, and really focusing on the special details. Doing more things yourself - like favors- to make it really personal. If you're doing a simple backyard wedding, Dessy has some great dresses from their Sandals line, and Watters and Wtoo also have some really great things.

Our website has links to all the designers we carry, so check these out!

Two Tips

2010-01-12T16:43:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year Everyone!

This week, I would like to share one old tip(as in I knew about it) and one new- both come out of the February edition of Bride's Magazine.

Tip #1: Be sure to take your maid of honor or personal attendent with you to your alterations place at least once so they can learn how to bustle your gown. It will save you time and potential stress to have them practice so that you can make a quick change.

Tip#2: Have an extra pair of shoes on hand for the reception and keep them in the freezer- when your feet start to hurt and swell, the cold shoes will feel AMAZING.

Happy Holidays!

2009-12-23T12:40:00.000-08:00

Save Yourself One Holiday Headache with Netbride

2009-12-17T12:59:00.000-08:00

Many people don’t realize that the start of the busy season for ordering wedding gowns and bridesmaids coincides with the holiday shopping season and then the holidays themselves. To get those gorgeous gowns in time for early summer weddings, now is the time when many people want or need to order to avoid any issues with delivery (most factories will have an increase in lead time around the Chinese New Year). With everybody out and about trying to find the perfect gift and/or perfect gown, it can really be crazy out there. Netbride saves you money year round, but this time of year, it also saves your sanity. Here are six ways Netbride saves you from stressing:

1) If money is tight, we offer a payment plan where you can pay half the order total now, and then the other half before the dresses ship. We only charge $10 to do the payment plan.

2) You don't have to try to round up your bridesmaids to get them into the store with you- they can each get measured on their own and then look at our size charts online to select a size.

3)You can order just about everything you need through our site: gowns, shoes, veils, accessories- you don't have to run around to 4 different stores to find what you want. And once it's ordered, you can keep tabs on everything in just one place.

4) You don't have to wonder about who you're doing business with- we're not some teeny shop that could close at the drop of a hat, or a huge chain that couldn't care less about you. We're big enough that you can feel secure, but small enough that you will feel special.We're a family owned business that's been around for years, and we take pride in our customer service. Our reputation is stellar, and we've been around a long time- I won't bore you with the details here, you can read them at our site.

5) We put everything you need to know to order on the site, so you can check everything out and get in touch with us with questions. To make things even easier, most week days during business hours we have someone online who you can contact via the chat feature on our site.

New Styles from Levkoff

2009-12-09T10:31:00.000-08:00

Levkoff has their new spring styles up on their website, and there are some super cute ones- they are in the regular Bill Levkoff collection. Some are reminiscent of Watter and Watters and Bari Jay- two of my faves, maybe that's why I'm a fan of these. Price sheets are in the mail, so if you're asking for quotes don't be shocked if it's a little slower since we have to call in for the next week or so until all our info comes.

Here's the site: http://www.billlevkoff.com

Julietta: The Best Plus Size Line Ever!

2009-12-03T17:11:00.001-08:00

Mori Lee makes the most fabulous plus size line out there, in my opinion. It is called “Julietta” and I love it. It is super classy, elegant, and the dresses just have really great lines. They have a variety of shapes, and while most dresses have some beading they tend not to be too over the top. And since it’s Mori Lee, the price is extremely reasonable, the quality is great, and so you can look fabulous without killing your budget. And since the line is a plus size line, there are no size charges on top of the price you are paying for the dress that you have to worry about. Another nice feature is that the standard hollow to hem on these dresses, like regular Mori Lee- is a little longer than most designers. For Julietta it is actually 61.5 inches. So no worries about needing extra length either.

Here is a link to the site:
http://www.morilee.com/Bridals/Julietta/

Also, here is my favorite gown: Style 3032
http://www.morilee.com/Bridals/Julietta/dressint.php?idves=3032&idcat=1&bsel=&npic=3&idscat=12&numPagina=2&npag2=2&imac=6

Check it Out!: Jordan Sweet Beginnings L400

2009-11-27T09:00:00.000-08:00

This is my new favorite flowergirl dress. I know it's not for everyone, but with all the great ruffled wedding gowns styles out now, this is a fun option that any little girl will adore wearing. Plus, it comes in a ton of colors!

Here is a link to the Jordan site for more info:
http://www.jordanfashions.com/ShowDressDetail.aspx?collectionid=6&dressid=1119&photoid=25988

As Seen In….

2009-11-18T09:46:00.000-08:00

In the November/December issue of Brides magazine, an Allure gown is featured on page 80 in the section on cleavage enhancing dresses. It is available either in Satin Back Taffeta as style 8666, or in Dupioni Silk as 8666SS. Here are two links to the two different versions with descriptions on Allure’s site.

http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=7
http://www.allurebridals.com/index.php?id=3&product_id=6

Here is a the link to get a quote:
http://www.netbride.com/bridal-price-quote.htm

Forever Yours: Five Reasons Why We’re Happy They’re Ours Again

2009-11-12T12:38:00.000-08:00

We are now carry Forever Yours Bridesmaids and Wedding gowns once more (Note: We do not carry their Informal Wedding gowns or any other lines such as Mothers, etc.) , and we are very excited. Here are Five reasons to check out Forever Yours if you haven’t done so:

1) There are NO SIZE CHARGES for Wedding gowns or Maids. Their size chart also goes up to a 30. Most designers charge for sizes 18 and up, and sometimes these charges can be $50 or more for maids, and in the $100’s for wedding gowns.
2) They make junior maids styles to match almost every bridesmaids dress.
3) Their bridesmaids dresses for the most part come in a ton of colors. Slinky Satin is the only fabric that is a little more limited as far as choices.
4) If you’re looking to do some color in your wedding gown, on dresses with colored trim you can usually get any bridesmaids satin color, which means 66 different options!
5) They have a selction of jackets for both bridal and bridesmaids.

To find reasons of your own to love this line, check them out:

http://www.foreverbridals.com/
The picture above is of style 45121 from the Fantasy Bridals collection.

Jackets Part III: Offerings from Eden Bridals

2009-11-04T12:43:00.001-08:00

Eden has some super cute newer jacket styles, as well as some plainer carryover options. There wasn’t a photo I could get, but below is a link to my favorite: style J1015. It looks really couture and fun. Eden also makes bridesmaids jackets, so if you want something really simple, you could check those out as well. The maids jackets will be a little less expensive too, which is always a bonus! Below is a link to my favorite little jacket, and also to the Eden site. You’ll find the jackets under the accessories area. Happy Shopping!

http://www.edenbridals.com/j1015-p-1657.html

http://www.edenbridals.com

Jackets: Part II

2009-10-28T08:54:00.001-07:00

Mori Lee is one of the best designers out there as style and value for the price, and their new jacket options for Spring 2010 stay true to this trend. They’re pretty simple for the most part and so could work well with many different styles, and while each style only comes in one fabric, they use a different fabric for each style.
Here are links to each style: on Mori Lee’s site:

http://www.morilee.com/dressint.php?idves=35044&idcat=1&idscat=1
http://www.morilee.com/dressint.php?idves=35043&idcat=1&idscat=1
http://www.morilee.com/dressint.php?idves=35041&idcat=1&idscat=1
http://www.morilee.com/dressint.php?idves=35042&idcat=1&idscat=1

Jackets for Wedding Gowns: Part 1

2009-10-23T07:56:00.001-07:00

Looking for a Jacket to go with your gorgeous gown? Over the next few weeks, I’ll post some different ideas and options that Netbride offers.

Private Label by G makes a line of jackets that are designed specifically for wedding gowns. They have different sleeve lengths and designs. These are going to be at a higher price point since they are specifically for wedding gowns. The picture is of one of the styles they make. To look at others, check out Private Label’s website:

http://www.privatelabelbyg.com/

Affordable Modest Wedding Gowns

2009-10-08T11:35:00.000-07:00

Whether it’s for personal comfort, religious reasons, or cultural tradition, many brides need a gown that shows them off without showing too much skin. Some specialty stores and sites try to cater to this need, but their prices are often on the high side. Never fear, Netbride is here! We carry some great lines that have modest options, or if you fall for a gown that needs some adjustments in order to be suitable, the money you save with us will help to cover your alterations.

Depending on what type of modest cut you require: high neckline, covered shoulders, sleeves, or all of the above, your options are a little different. It seems odd to say, but one thing I would advise is not to rule out strapless. For one thing, then you have a lot more options, and many strapless dresses have reasonably high necklines. Some designers have the option to add sleeves or cap sleeves, or a seamstress can make a sleeve for you as well. Also, if you need to be modest just for the ceremony but can do anything you want for the reception, if you do a detachable sleeve then you can take it off later.

The modest line we carry is from Venus Bridals, their site is: www.venusbridal.com

One designer we carry that can add cap sleeves to most gowns is Ginza/Private Label by G.

Most designers will have some dresses that have modest features, you just have to sift through, which takes time. I’ve gone through dresses by one designer we carry, Eden, the links below are to dresses that all have either wider straps or some kind of sleeve.

http://www.edenbridals.com/5098-p-1474.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5080-p-1319.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5073a-p-1310.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5073b-p-1311.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5063-p-1194.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5027-p-634.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/5004-p-368.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2335-p-1458.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2323-p-1446.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2296-p-1381.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2281a-p-1262.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2249-p-1166.html
http://www.edenbridals.com/2148-p-277.html

Color Trends for 2010

2009-09-29T14:44:00.000-07:00

Color Trends for 2010

According to one website, here are some of the top color choices for the upcoming year:

TIFFANY BLUE

AQUA BLUE

ROYAL BLUE

LIME GREEN

SANGRIA / DARK RASPBERRY

CORAL

WATERMELON

PURPLE

CHOCOLATE / MOCHA

BLACK + WHITE

I was a little surprised not to see Grey, or Charcoal Grey/ Platinum as one of the colors- I have many brides looking for these colors. Blues, Purples, and Greys are the big colors right now in my experience.

The color list above, and some other ideas as well are at: http://www.mypersonalartist.com/weddingcolors2.html

Also, check out this palette generator: http://www.colorschemer.com/schemes/

Also, this is a really cool article about what different colors can mean: http://www.favorideas.com/wedding-themes/themes-by-color/meanings-of-colors-in-weddings/

Pick of the Week: Bari Jay 640

2009-09-22T09:42:00.000-07:00

Looking for a dress with a great unexpected detail? The front of this gown is very simple and elegant, with a little brooch that keeps it from being blah. But then in back, a cascade of narrow ruffles adds flair and fabulosity. I love it because it’s simple and classic, but the back detail makes it really fun to wear and special without being over the top.

Check it out on Bari Jay's site: http://barijay.com/style.php?coll=barijay&showid=663.

Finding Your Style

2009-09-15T12:22:00.000-07:00

Your wedding is all about expressing who you are as a couple. Here is a quiz I thought was kind of cool. To take the quiz you have to go down on the page a little bit. Have fun!

http://www.brides.com/fashion/dresses/findyourstyle/landing/

Under Where?

2009-09-08T11:01:00.000-07:00

Many brides I work with have questions about undergarments- what kind to wear, where to get them, do they need a slip… I’ll try to address the most common ones I get, and then if you have others feel free to put them in a comment and I’ll do my best!

Q: What kind of bra should I wear?

A: If you can go without it, then go without! Many gowns have enough boning in the bodice that you will not need additional support. If you don’t quite fill out the top or need a little “oomph”, your seamstress can sew in cups. If you’re on the opposite side and wearing something with thin material/ very little structure, if you can go with a cup sewn in that’s best as well, or those stick on cups can work. Basically, less is more. If you do need the extra support, make sure that wherever the boning ends works with the lines of your gown- usually you'll want it to be a traditional strapless that ends under the bust line, or something that goes all the way down to whever the waistline of your gown is and possibly below.

Q: What kind of slip/crinoline should I wear?

A: This is one I get a lot, and really the answer is: one that makes the skirt as full as you want it. Skirt fullness is a personal preference- some people want the fullest, most princess-like pouf they can get, and others just want a little extra fluff. Most gown skirts come with some crinoline in them, so unless you want a fuller look you won’t need to wear a slip. To check out the slips netbride carries, go to: http://netbride.com/wedding-slips-crinolines/index.php. Also, we can order from a company called undercover if these options don’t seem quite right. Here is their site. http://www.undercoverbridal.com/

I also sometimes get questions about strapless bras and spanx, but we don’t carry anything in that line so I’m not an expert. Bras are something you really need to try on most of the time, but you can order things online. There are also tons of variations of spanx: less expensive versions, more expensive versions, you name it. The main thing you want to do (and sorry if I'm captain obvious here, but not everyone thinks of these things) is get everything far enough in advance so you can make sure it’ll work and take it to your fittings.

Choosing Your Colors

2009-09-02T12:01:00.000-07:00

I was going to write something about how you might go about selecting your wedding colors, and in researching I found this article, which is pretty fabulous. It has a lot of great ideas to help you think through what you really want. I hope this is helpful!

http://www.favorideas.com/learn-about/wedding-planning/choosing-your-wedding-colors/

Check it Out!: Bari Jay Style 641

2009-08-25T09:03:00.000-07:00

Looking for a flowing style with a fun detail? Check out this one shoulder gown from Bari Jay. The shoulder strap is optional, but I think it makes the dress. It is also available in maternity sizing (this costs extra, the fee is on the size chart for this designer on our website).

For more views/info on the dress: http://barijay.com/style.php?coll=barijay&showid=666

For a price quote: http://netbride.com/bridal-price-quote.htm

Want to Customize? Accesorize!

2009-08-18T09:40:00.000-07:00

Want to have each bridesmaid look a little different without the hassle of finding different dress styles that coordinate? Choose a very simple gown and have each girl do a different chunky necklace. Keep their flowers on the simple side as well if you do this- the necklace is the focal point. There are several ways you could go about it : have each girl find her own unique piece that’s in keeping with the overall look, find several different types of necklace that layer well and then combine them in different ways for each girl to keep them similar, shop together, have the necklace be a surprise… However you work it out, it’s a great look that will leave your bridesmaids with an accessory they’ll love.

A cute style that could work for this look is Bill L evkoff 384- you could do a longer style as well, but this one is short with a really fun shape and great texture. The link is below:

http://www.billlevkoff.com/#/9/bill-levkoff-bridesmaid-dresses/bridesmaid-dress-style-384/1202/

It’s not just what you wear, it’s how you wear it.

2009-08-06T13:17:00.000-07:00

I love looking at photos in magazines where you cancompare two celebrities wearing the same dress or outfit and see the poll results for who looked better. Sometimes it’s just about popularity, but I don’t think the exercise is totally frivolous. Usually both women are beautiful, fabulous bodies, highly styled, the whole nine yards. But the way each person wears it makes a difference, and I’m not just talking accessories. Here are some things to think about so that once you’ve got that gorgeous gown you make the most of it.

1) Posture: No need to be stiff and starchy, but try to stand up straight and hold your head up, keeping the shoulders back but relaxed. Think of keeping your torso open- you’ll look confident and also more welcoming to your guests. You’ll also look thinner if you have good posture, which we all want.

2) Alterations: I feel like I harp on this sometimes, but it is SO crucial. Make sure that gown is perfectly fitted, and you will look well put together with minimal effort in other areas. A poorly fitted gown, and you might as well put your hair in pigtails and thow on a hoodie over it- the effect is ruined.

3) Attitude: Everyone looks better when they smile. Even if you feel like pulling your hair out, or running and hiding from all the attention, try to keep a sense of humor and not sweat it. Reality TV is all very well, but in reality, no one wants to see an out of sorts bride. Do you want to be remembered as that bride who looked so stressed out, or that bride who looked so lovely and had a smile for everyone?

4) Focus on what matters: Once you are ready, do not look in a mirror again if you can avoid it. Do not fidget with your hair or your dress. Have a few people you really trust promise to let you know when you need to touch up, and then forget about how you look. Enjoy the day, be confident that you are looking good, and you absolutely will be.

5) Be yourself. This day is all about you and your sweetie, so don’t worry about what you should do or say or what’s expected. It’s your day, so just enjoy it!

Too Much Tea?

2009-07-29T12:22:00.000-07:00

A customer I was working with the other day remarked on how sick she was of tea length dresses, that every wedding she had been to lately had tea or knee length gowns. It’s very true that tea length, knee length, and even above the knee gowns have been growing in popularity for some time, and while many brides still want floor length, more are going for a shorter length. This trend makes a lot of sense for financial reasons- tea length gowns will tend to be slightly less expensive, although there is still a range and designer and fabric determine the price more than length, and the likelihood of wearing a shorter dress again is always greater. But I wonder, is it now true that to be different, floor length is the way to go? It used to be that people had a hard time with shorter lengths, but now it’s almost the new standard. I don’t know if I’d say tea/knee length is overdone, because it works so well in so many contexts, but I’d be interested to hear what people think- is floor length the way to stand out from the crowd?

Bridesmen and Groomsladies!

2009-07-21T14:25:00.000-07:00

Just in case you didn’t know, it is now totally acceptable to have members of the opposite sex stand up on either side. Really, everyone who is standing up as an attendant is there in support of both of you, so who cares if all the men or women are together or not? Just make sure the men are all in the same tux, and that the women are either in the same dress or very similar. I was even reading that it’s not necessary to have even numbers- gasp! It makes so much sense it’s almost scary- why not just have the people you really want to stand up with you, and not worry about numbers or evening everything out. You may have to get a little creative for pictures, but that’s a minor detail. Anyone have stories/thoughts about less traditional wedding parties/configurations? I’d love to hear from you!

How to Look Expensive

2009-07-17T10:27:00.000-07:00

You don't need to spend a fortune to look like a million bucks. Here are a few tips to help you up the ante of your ensemble even on a budget.

1) Wear ivory. It looks richer than white in most fabrics, and is also best for most skin tones. If you can't do an ivory, try diamond white - it's softer than white and most people cannot tell the difference unless it's next to a bright white.

2) Wear a dress with good lines that fits well. Most high-end designers’ gowns are fairly simple, so often less is more, and a flattering cut is the most important element of a gown.

3) Keep your hair simple and elegant. Skip the tiara and opt for a flower or clip headpiece worn to the side.

4) Wear a long, simple veil. It’s classic and gives you a lovely long line in the back.

5) For jewelry, either keep it simple and understated, or go for one or two great statement pieces, like a chunky necklace or cuff. In other words, classic, or couture. Vintage pieces are always great as well.

6) Have good posture- keep your shoulders back and your head up, and you'll instantly look more poised and set off whatever you're wearing. How you wear is just as important as what you wear.

Pick of the Week: Bill Levkoff Style 370

2009-07-08T08:47:00.000-07:00

Here’s a link to a cute new style from Levkoff. Haven’t seen the sample in person yet, but this looks like a babydoll done right: the bust is nice and fitted with flattering drapes, the skirt is full but still has a lot of shape, and it has pockets!
Also, it's in Levkoff's Euro Satin which has a nice range of colof options.

I’d love to hear thoughts from anyone who tries it on in person.

http://www.billlevkoff.com/#/9/bill-levkoff-bridesmaid-dresses/bridesmaid-dress-style-370/1188/

Have a Ball... Gown!

2009-06-24T10:23:00.000-07:00

Ball gowns are big this season (well, I guess they’re always technically big, but you know what I mean). In particular, ball gowns with a natural waist. It’s a classic shape that is fabulous, romantic, and has that “certain sort of something”, as they say.

Here are few styles to check out.

Mori Lee Style 2401: http://www.morilee.com/DressDetail.aspx?C=1&D=2401&P=1
Mori Lee Style 2415: http://www.morilee.com/DressDetail.aspx?C=1&D=2415&P=1
Eden Bridals Style 2320 (this one has pickups): http://www.edenbridals.com/2320-p-1443.html

Beautiful Bling!

2009-06-17T11:05:00.000-07:00

Heavy beading is hot right now – it’s lavish and kicks up the “wow” factor of a dress.
Check out these styles:

DaVinci 8363
http://www.davincibridal.com/catalog.php?cat=22&im_id=8&page=4 (bottom right corner)
Impression 3005 : http://www.impressionbridal.com/catalog.php?cat=22&im_id=4&page=0 (bottom right corner)
Mary’s Bridal F09 7981
http://www.marysbridal.com/bridal/7981.htm

Pucker Up!

2009-05-26T12:11:00.000-07:00

The kiss is the high point of most wedding ceremonies. It’s the moment where you start to celebrate the fact that the deal’s been sealed, and as such it’s both solemn and joyous.
Here are some hints to help you achieve the picture perfect wedding kiss:

1) Talk to your future spouse and decide what kind of kiss you want to do. Weddings are all about blending the personal and the public. No need to overthink, but you’ll want to make sure you’re both on the same page, especially if you’re going to do something like a dip.

2) Practice! This is one part of wedding prep everyone can get excited about. If you want to keep it classy, the kiss should not last too long, and there should be no tongue involved. Put some passion in there though- no pecks on the cheek or one second wonders! Also, decide who’ll put their hands where and which way to lean. Then you won’t have to worry on the big day.

3) Watch the lipstick- either wear something that won’t smudge or rub off, or else remember to have hankie handy!

4) Don’t just go for the gold- take a moment to look into each others’ eyes before the lip lock. Waiting a bit stretches out the moment so you can enjoy it and creates a little suspense for your audience as well!