Is Your Flowergirl a Wild Child?

I'm a fan of flowergirls of all personalities: sweet and shy, sweet and not so shy, girly princess types, and of course, the wild ones.
What do I mean by "wild"? I mean the kid who marches to the beat of her own drum, isn't going to go for what you'd expect, and has a personality that stands out from the crowd. (I do not mean badly behaved. One can be a wild child and still vey well mannered!)

There are a couple of different ways you can tackle what can be a challenging task- agreeing on a dress you'll both love.

Way #1: Find a really simple dress, and pick out accessories together that let her express her personality. Let her have choices about a bunch of smaller details.

Way #2: Put her in a color that coordinates but contrasts with the bridesmaids. Traditionally flowergirls are in white or ivory, but I think color is always a great option (and slightly less stressful to try to keep spotless). Then she can feel special in her own color that isn't the same as anyone else's.

Just a couple of ideas! Another really helpful thing can be to look at pictures together before you do any actual shopping, so that you can get a feel for what she is interested in and will enjoy wearing. Ultimately, you're the bride and you're the boss, but a happy flowergirl on your wedding day may be worth a few compromises. Or there's always bribery.... :)

Pounds do not equal Inches

Maybe it's the time of year, but everyone seems to have weight loss on the brain. I've been in a wedding or two, so I understand all about wanting to tone up, and the thought of all those pictures you'll be in is a powerful motivation for anyone!

So, what do you do if you're like most people, and need to order a dress now to get in time for the wedding, but you know you'll be thinner then? Unfortunately, there's no formula anywhere that says something like: "If you lose 10lbs, you will be one inch smaller in measurement X." Not only is there no way to know how many inches those pounds you lose will bring you down, there is no way to know for sure just where they are coming off.

So, the best way to proceed, even though it's kind of a bummer, is to order the size you are at right now. You should be planning on altering your dress no matter what, and it's not going to make a big difference if you are taking the dress in an extra inch or two. Plus, think how fabulous you'll feel when the dress does come in and feels nice and loose, versus how terrible you'd feel if you did order down a size, but the way you lost the weight (or didn't quite manage to lose it!) doesn't put your measurements down to where they'd need to be that smaller size. You'll feel terrible, and no one needs that kind of stress! Plus, in the long run, you are looking at the potential for far greater expense if you get a dress that's too small and have to try to add in fabric, etc. Taking in is a breeze compared to that!

So remember, however many pounds you have as your goal to lose, be calm, cool, and practical, and just order for where you are right now. Sleeping at night is also very important to help you look as gorgeous as possible : )